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Last Modified: September 30, 2020
by pitin

Let me enumerate the things you don't need to include in your first baby needs list, or at least, delay buying.

First Baby Needs List

1

Changing Table

While having a changing table seems nice and convenient, it is NOT PRACTICAL to buy something that will be useless as soon as your little one can already lie on their tummy.


You cannot leave your baby unattended once they can already roll from their back to their tummy. It is dangerous, and they can fall within a few seconds that you leave them on top of it.


You might just want to buy a CHEAP changing pad that you can lay flat at the center of your bed or in their crib if they have one. Most of the time, changing pads also come as a freebie with every diaper bag purchase.

2

Nursery Organizer

Keep your baby's stuff dust-free by not putting them out in the open.


Nursery organizer is dust accumulating. Do you really want to put your baby's soft cloths, diapers, and other clothes left in the open?


The dust can do harm to your baby's sensitive skin. Secure your baby stuff somewhere safe, like a simple cabinet with a door.


Anything that will directly come in contact with your baby's skin should be dust-free!

3

Crib

Some parents would leave their newborns sleeping in their own crib, in their own room. One of their reasons is they are trying to make them have a sense of independence from the start.


But some parents, especially breastfeeding moms, prefer to co-sleep with their little ones. If you are planning to breastfeed, you can consider delaying buying a crib until you feel that you really need to start letting them sleep on their own (usually around 6 months plus).


If you purchase a crib on your little one's sixth month, you can probably just use them for 2 to 3 months because, depending on your child's development, some babies can already climb out of their cribs in as early as 8 months, unless you are getting the 4-in-1 cribs that can be converted to toddler beds.*

4

Bassinet

Having a bassinet is more of a luxury because it has a redundant purpose. If you already have a stroller that can completely recline flat, you can safely let your babies sleep on them when you are out of the house.


If you are at home and you have a crib, your babies can lie down in there instead. Some parents are also okay to leave their babies to sleep on top of their bed. As long as they don't know how to roll yet, they are safe in an adult bed.


We can only use bassinets for 1-4 months, depending on the size of your bassinet and how fast your little one grows.

5

Nursery Paraphernalia

Who doesn't want a beautiful nursery? Unless you can commit to keeping the nursery clean and DUST-FREE, avoid putting soft toys and other stuff that can invite dust. Save having soft toys for later.

6

Play Yard

My daughter slept in a play yard from two months to 8 months. She was a heavy-build for her age when she was already 8 months, and every time she leans to one side, the play yard seems like it will tip over.


Also, my daughter tried climbing out of it at 8 months. Unlike cribs, play yards are only made of a soft net on the sides and they can turn upside down if your heavy-built baby is leaning on one side.

7

Pacifier

There is an ample amount of debate going around parenting forums on whether to use a pacifier for your babies.


I avoided it because I read that it is very hard to wean them off it. Some 4-year-olds are still on pacifiers because some moms are having a hard time weaning them off it.


I also believe that pacifiers hinder breastfeeding moms to establish their milk supply, especially in the first month of breastfeeding.

8

Toys

I am not sure if it's just my daughter, but TOYS doesn't appeal to her in her early months. However, she plays with random non-toy stuff like plastic containers in the kitchen, ladle, adult spoon, coriander, plastic drinking straw, empty boxes, plastic cups, and the likes! LOL.


Delay buying baby toys until you learn their importance to your child's development.

9

Baby Books

Books are a must, but baby books can be expensive. Children can easily grow tired of them. Therefore, you need to keep on giving them new ones. We bought 6 books when my daughter was around 6 months, but she got bored with them.


What we did after was applied for a yearly membership in a library where we borrow books for a membership fee per year.

Now that you know the things you probably don't need, it's all up to you if you still prefer to include them on your registry list. 

Creating A List Of What You Need For Your First Baby?

Check Out This Practical List!

Thoughts?

Cheers!

Pitin

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  1. Amazing how different these lists are from one mother to another.

    I didn’t want a changing table but my mother-in-law found one for $15 and it was well worth it. We cloth diaper and would have no room in the dresser with a changing pad on top. Children should never be left alone on a tall surface no matter how wide the surface or how young the baby.

    We used a real crib in our closet from 1-2 weeks and in their room until 3 years. Then it converted to a toddler bed. We have two cribs. Ikea only charges $80. We wanted to eliminate the question of whether the baby was comfortable. Pack n plays don’t have much padding, and have solid fabric on the bottom walls (SIDS).

    Never heard of dust harming kids skin… dust mostly is skin. We don’t air filter or super clean and have pets so that our kids won’t develop allergies.

    Our pack n plays never came close to tipping. We never used them for play… but they are vital for travel. When our oldest was still in a crib, we bought a second cheaper one. So much better than a kid running around the hotel room a night.

    Maybe your child was bored by books because she wasn’t exposed from the first weeks onward. Babies are supposed to be read to 20 mins per day from the first days and they don’t care if books are repeated. We discourage it just from the fact that we hate reading something more than twice. I ordered two separate lots of used board books from eBay for less than $1 each. We also collect them from thrift stores. We probably have 200+ books and our kids enjoy sitting with them on their own volition for sometimes an hour… from the time they can crawl until present (4 years).

    Simple soft rattles are great for babies at 2-4 months of age and they should have many toys once they are sitting. We don’t let our kids play with our kitchen things so we don’t constantly have to wash them to use them for the kitchen. Stuff all over the kitchen floor is a hazard.

    1. Hi Jennifer,

      Yup. Funny how one parent’s view of essentials are regarded as a luxury by an another parent and vice versa. But then again, there’s no ONE RULE when it comes to parenting, right? Whatever works for our family without compromising safety is always my priority.

      My child developed an interest for books (repeatedly reading) when she’s already 3 years old. All the books I borrowed from the library during her first year either get torn apart or gets bitten on the edges, LOL.

      I am not a very “strict” parent. If she wants to imitate me cook and play with the actual kitchen laddle we use, I allow her to. I am very hands on nowadays so she gets to imitate me a lot. I even let her help me clean specks of dust now that she is already 3 yrs old plus.

      I guess raising a child is a complete experiment. Regardless of how much research we do, there is no one perfect formula to do it all correctly. And we just have to keep on learning too as they grow.

      Regards,
      Pitin

  2. I completely agree about the changing table! I never purchased one, instead, I just put a changing pad on top of their dresser and used that! In addition, our pack n’ play had a little changing station on it, so I also used that downstairs! I am all for functional pieces that you can use (such as a 4 in 1 convertible crib) after they are out of the baby stages, and a changing table isn’t really that!

    1. Hi Abby,

      Since a changing pad usually comes with a diaper bag purchase, it’s as good as free.:) It’s one of the most functional baby pieces that you’ll ever need in my opinion. You can also use it in under the sheets so that when your overnight cloth diaper fails you, you won’t end up with a wet mattress.

      Regards,
      Pitin

  3. Glad I stumbled upon this site, I think it is a very useful site for a first time parent. Wish I had come across this site when I was pregnant with my first. Think I went overboard on buying things for the new baby that I didn’t need.
    I know what you mean about toys! We must have spend hundreds on toys when they were little, especially at Christmas but all they seemed interested in playing with was the box!

    1. Hi Jenny,

      I totally agree on the BOX issue. HAHA. My daughter still always shows interest on the box more even after the item has been opened.

      Regards,

      Pitin

  4. Hello and thank you for sharing your experience. I am a father of two beautiful little girls. We had some trouble when it came to the pacifier. It seems like every time we got rid of the pacifiers, the girls some how seemed to find one and pop in back in their mouth. Also the basinet it worked for our youngest till she was about 8 months but mommy would love to keep her in our bed for when it came to nursing her. We learned our lessons about things that were not a need for our babies. Thanks again.

    1. Hi Jason,

      Thanks for sharing your experience as well.:) Some parents love bassinet though, especially that they can use it both at home and if it is compatible with their stroller, they can use it as a travel system. So I think it still boils down to what kind of lifestyle you plan to have. It is a luxury to put it on your initial list especially if you end up not using it, but I believe that for basic needs, a parent can live without it or just delay buying it until you really feel that you need to. 🙂

      Regards,

      Pitin

  5. Oh, this is a great post. With my first baby, I was told about all these things I would need… and oh what a waste of money and space the majority of them turned out to be. My second child is 2 1/2 and he has barely slept in his cot or now his toddler bed! He only goes to sleep in his bed in the early evening, and then when he wakes up he climbs into my bed, often before we even go to sleep.

    I bought pacifiers for both my children (to give my boobs a break every now and then) and they wouldn’t use them.

    We never bought a changing table, we just had a changing mat and used the bed or a table. Much cheaper and more convenient.

    When I had my second baby the only thing I asked for at my baby shower was disposable nappies! Yes, I could have gone with cloth nappies but I go for convenience here.

    You can really get away with hardly anything for a new baby. There are a few things I would consider essential… like a proper car seat and a pram. And if you buy quality for those few items you can use them for your next children!

    1. Hi Lynne,

      Thanks for sharing your experience. As for me, I bought a lot of feeding paraphernalia (e.g. cups, plates, colourful spoons) because my daughter has been a picky eater when she turned around 15 months. She just ended up playing with them and still use her hands (fingers) to eat, LOL. We have a lot of small baby clothes from other people that she never used at all, as well as shoes. For our next one maybe we’ll just get them as we need them and make sure they are the essentials only.

      Regards,

      Pitin

  6. Hi Pitin – what a great post! I agree with you. I have a 2-year-old granddaughter and she ended up with so many things that there was nowhere to put them and she didn’t use half of them. And now, there is another one on the way! So hopefully, that won’t happen again!

    I like your suggestions for what a baby really needs. All comfortable and useful things! And love, of course! Thanks for sharing!

    1. Hi Debbie,

      I think it’s normal for us first time parents to overbuy things since we tend to over prepare than under prepare. But nowadays, information like this are all over the internet, and if first-time parents would just do their research well, overbuying will somehow be minimised.:)

      Thanks for dropping by.

      Regards,

      Pitin

  7. Great post, I have 2 children and wish I had found your post when they were little. My wife felt we needed everything and as your site points out, much is not needed. I still look at that crazy changing table (yes we still have it in the basement). Your site will be a big help to new parents, help them save money and get what they really need. The library is a great idea for the books, they do get expensive. We did use the pacifier but made a point at 2 to fight the battle and won. It was difficult. Thanks for your post

    1. Hi Bob,

      For our part, we only bought the basics and got the rest as we need them (like the breast pump when I decided to pump milk at work). It is also good to assess and plan what kind of lifestyle you intend to have once the baby is out. Are you gonna be co-sleeping? So probably don’t need a crib YET. Will you be traveling a lot? Then you need a lightweight car seat, and so on. The stuff you need would greatly depend on your lifestyle once the baby is out. 🙂

      Regards,

      Pitin

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